Hey there mama.
Let me start off by saying four words that you may need to hear today: You Are Not Failing.
Seriously. Even if deep down inside you feel like the biggest failure as a parent, I want you to know that you are not a failure. In fact, you are exactly what those little eyes looking up at you need.
You may be saying to yourself, “you don’t even know me, how do you know I am a good mom?” And you’re right, I may not know you personally and we probably haven’t met in person but I do know you. I know you because I am you.
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I have walked in your shoes and have been exactly where you are. I have called my mom crying because my daughter just wouldn’t listen and hit me. I have been on the brink of losing it and felt like I was doing something wrong and maybe I wasn’t good enough.
Let’s be honest, in this world we live in today where everyone looks perfect and their lives look perfect, it’s so easy to feel like we are failing. It is too easy to look at all of those crafts on Pinterest and wonder, “why am I not spending my entire day painting and making projects?”
I have felt those feelings and they can suck the joy out of you.
I remember being knee deep in diapers and spit up with stains on my shirt from leaking and browsing Facebook seeing all these moms who had perfect hair and make-up and a newborn in their arms and thinking to myself that I was already failing.
If I could go back to those early days of being a mom I would tell myself that I am doing the best that I can and that, is more than enough. If I could look you in the eyes right now mama, over a large bowl of ice cream and maybe some wine, I would tell you the same thing.
I would tell you that you are enough.
I would tell you that you can do this and you are doing it everyday that you love your little ones.
I would tell you that it’s okay to make mistakes as a parent. I have never met a parent who hasn’t made a mistake.
I would tell you to ignore those nagging voices in your head that tell you that you are failing.
I would tell you to not listen to other’s opinions on your parenting, your kids, your marriage or your life. Do what is best for your family, always.
I would tell you that it gets better. The sleepless nights will end. I promise.
Motherhood can be a very isolating and lonely place sometimes. A place where you doubt yourself and your role as a mom. A place where you feel like you are the only one who has eaten the rest of the food off your child’s plate because there was no time to cook your own meal. (Yup, I’ve done that! This is a judgement free zone!)
But even if you lost your cool in the middle of Target and everyone was staring. Even if you yelled today way more than you wanted to and needed a break so you put on two hours of mind numbing cartoons so you could sit down, there is one thing I know for sure…you are not failing.
Today, don’t be so hard on yourself. Laugh with your babies. Dance around the house. Have Kraft macaroni and cheese for dinner and know that those little people that you are raising, love you just the way you are. Try and love yourself too! You deserve it.