“To be honest, I’m just winging it. Life, motherhood, my eyeliner. Everything.”
If you could sum motherhood up in one word, what would it be?
I can think of a few like fulfilling, exhausting, beautiful, awe-inspiring and frustrating. There are so many uplifting and happy moments intertwined with tons of messy and challenging days.
When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, I started reading so many different blogs and words from other moms and their experiences. I knew I wanted to have kids one day but I hadn’t really thought about what it would be like to actually become a mom.
Even after all the things I read and researched, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I remember calling my mom and asking her so many questions but nothing prepared me for motherhood. There are so many things I wish I had known before my daughter made me a mom!
The list could go on and on but I wanted to share with you five things that many people don’t tell you about motherhood. Hold on tight, it’s a bumpy ride!
1. You will feel so many feelings at the same time.
So. Many. Feelings. Have you ever loved someone so much yet didn’t like them at the same time? That’s what parenting is like. There are days where I literally count down until bedtime and then when she is in bed, all I want to do is hug and kiss her. It’s bizarre. Be ready to feel so many different emotions in a 24 hour period that your head will spin.
2. Everyone has an opinion. Everyone.
The second you are pregnant, everyone has an opinion. I will never forget when my daughter was around 2 months old, I went to the dermatologist and brought her with me. She was a little fussy in the waiting room so my husband got up and walked her around a little. An older woman there came over and told me that he needed to put her down so she wouldn’t get used to us carrying her around all the time.
She also asked me if we let her cry at home. Um, okay. I am generally a pleasant person so I just thanked her and moved on. “Advice” has come from strangers, friends, family and everyone in between. It’s important to get a thick skin and be able to shrug all of the opinions off. You know what’s best for your baby, go with your gut!
3. You will appreciate your mom like never before.
Before I had my daughter, I always thought I was someone who looked up to and appreciated my parents. Since I have become a mom, I have learned that maybe I didn’t realize how much my parents have done for my sisters and I. When I was having a difficult time being a stay at home mom, the one person I called was my mom.
She stayed home with us until I was in high school and she was there for everything. She drove us to school, picked us up, was there for dinner and our activities. I never knew just how much she sacrificed to be there with us until I was home everyday with my daughter. I appreciate her now more than ever and becoming a mom myself has forever changed my relationship with her!
4. You will love more than you ever knew possible.
I never knew my heart could love someone as much as I love my daughter. From the moment I felt her kick inside me, I was in love. I had heard the term “mama bear” before but never really understood what that means or felt like until I became a mom. I will literally kill for that little human. Prepare yourself for the most intense love you have ever known.
5. It will change you forever.
You will never be the same. Motherhood has changed everything about me. I can honestly say that I have lost lots of friends along this journey of being a mom because my priorities have changed and I am a different person. You will never be the same again, but in the best ways possible in my opinion! Be open to your new life and embrace everything that comes with it. It’s the best life there is!
Being a parent is trying and sometimes can feel very lonely but know that there is always someone out there who feels the same way you do! Moms unite! 🙂
What is one thing you wish you knew before you became a mom? Comment below! XOXO
You may also enjoy my advice on staying sane as a SAHM & a few tips on parenting a strong-willed child!