“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say ‘no’ to almost everything” – Warren Buffet
I rarely say ‘no’ to anything. Seriously. Even if I don’t want to go somewhere or join that committee, I will almost always say ‘yes’.
And guess what? I hate it.
I hate being so busy that I don’t even turn on my computer some days to work on this blog, which is my passion.
I hate that at the end of the day, I realize the only time I had a quiet moment with my daughter was when we sat down for 20 minutes and had dinner.
Between the birthday parties, appointments, play dates, practices and everyday stuff, I am losing time with my husband and my little one who is growing up way too fast. See, the more I say ‘yes’ to everyone and everything, the less time I get to sit on the floor and color with my daughter or play that silly board game for the 100th time.
I am someone who loves watching the Real Housewives (yup, judgement free zone) and my DVR is currently 95% full because I rarely sit anymore to watch the TV. I literally have two books that I got from the library that I haven’t even had time to start yet and reading is one of my favorite things to do.
Just last month we had three birthday parties which means driving, paying for a gift or two and three hours out of the house.
Now, I am learning how to say ‘no’.
Unfortunately, for as long as I can remember, I have had a serious case of “FOMO” aka The Fear Of Missing Out. In college, I would go out to that party just so I didn’t miss anything. If someone I know is having a get together, even if I would rather stay in and read my book, I go because I hate the idea of missing something.
Missing what you might be thinking to yourself? I ask myself that all the time and literally have no idea.
This year, for me, is all about a journey to living more simply and doing what’s best for my little family, which my husband has so affectionately called “the war path” after the inspirational Jocko Willink.
This journey includes doing what makes me happy and not being so concerned with how others will feel. It is all about setting boundaries and spending more time being still and quiet.
I am learning that having a meaningful conversation with my 6-year-old about what happened at school today is more important than making it to the PTA meeting.
What I have come to realize is that while I have been so worried about missing out on a birthday party for someone I don’t even know, I have been missing out on moments with my husband.
I am in a season of my life where my daughter needs me to be present and we need to slow down. I have been wasting precious time saying ‘yes’ to everyone else and in turn saying ‘no’ to a weekend at home in our pajamas doing absolutely nothing.
The freedom is saying ‘no’ is indescribable and something I am craving more and more. I am still working on it, but I am getting better at saying that two letter word.
So, if you need me this weekend, I will be on my couch with my little girl watching My Little Pony and drinking a hot coffee with my husband. I will be saying ‘no’ to running around and being busy and saying ‘yes’ to time with my loved ones.
What is one thing you could say ‘no’ to? How do you think your life would change if you weren’t so busy?